| Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: Mother of the pregnant daughter here, with more of the story. It never occurred to my daughter or the groom’s family that it would be my greatest wish to help my daughter pick her wedding dress — but I learned of the engagement weeks after the dress was purchased. It’s not something I can talk about without getting tearful. I have asked for years for them to come here for Christmas. I finally went to see them. His family members were at the airport, in the house, they are intrusive, they are loud, they are in everybody’s business. I don’t think I got a couple of hours alone with my daughter in a week. She told me it is like this all the time. I was trying to bake a cake I often make that has no vanilla in it. Her husband’s mother said that was wrong and poured vanilla in. She tells my daughter what to do, and my daughter accepts it. I told myself I would not go back there again. I got a yes to a visit, but then excuses when the time came. She has not met my boyfriend. I am never going to see that baby girl, and she will never know me. His family will make sure I never get a chance, and my daughter will not fight for me. — Got a Life, again |
