| Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My aunt saw a family necklace I was wearing at my mother’s funeral and said, “Snatched that up quick, didn’t you?” My mom had given it to me a few years earlier in honor of receiving my doctorate. It’s made in part from my grandfather’s Annapolis ring, and I love that it connects my family’s academic achievements across generations. I’d like to wear the necklace to my wedding, but my aunt has poisoned it with an unpleasant self-conscious feeling I can’t shake. Any advice on wiping that nastiness from my mind about something I once wore with pride? — If You Can’t Say Something Nice … | 
