| Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My brother has been engaged and then un-engaged twice within the past few years. Both times, he was the one who broke it off as they were in the process of wedding planning. Both women were loved and accepted by our whole family, including my young kids. It was only about 18 months between the first breakup and the second engagement. Now he has proposed to a third woman less than two years after breaking up with the first one. The whole family is wondering what exactly is going on here. I figure that’s none of my business, but I am very inclined to maintain some distance for my kids’ sake. For example, I don’t think they should start calling her “Aunt So-and-So” yet, like they did with the first two fiancées. Is this attitude somehow unfair to my brother? — Distanced Read your responses to this week’s reader question We asked readers to channel their inner Carolyn Hax and answer this question. Column Carolyn Hax and Haben Kelati | | | | 
