| Cancer survivors and advocates say that all too often, even well-intentioned people get the fundamentals wrong when they share their bad news. What is worse is when people disappear without a word. The phenomenon is so common that many cancer patients call it “cancer ghosting.” This often occurs because people may be unsure of how to respond. But the silence can be even more painful than the treatments themselves, several cancer survivors tell NPR. Here's advice for what to do and say — and what not to say — when a loved one faces cancer.
❤️ It can be scary for you as a loved one of someone with cancer, but remember, they are facing a bigger fear. Connection and presence are important, even if you don’t know what to say; just being there makes a difference.
❤️ If it feels awkward, acknowledge the tension and ask whether the patient wants to talk about it. If they do, just listen and allow them space to vent.
❤️ When conveying understanding, avoid sharing your own stories or unsolicited advice, as it may overlook the person's unique experience. Each cancer journey is different, and others' stories can be irrelevant or trigger fears.
❤️ People who survive cancer and no longer have treatment should still receive continued support. This could just mean remembering to honor how cancer has left its mark. | 
