As your visibility grows, so do the networking requests. Some are reasonable; others cross the line. While a strong network is built on mutual support, it shouldn't leave you feeling depleted. Watch out for these red flags of needy networkers to protect your energy.
There’s always an ask. Look out for people who only reach out when they want something—an intro, a reference, a last-minute favor. Ask yourself when they last engaged without needing anything. If you feel consistently depleted, it may be time to step back.
Insincere praise. When compliments come just before a request, it’s not flattery—it’s manipulation. Acknowledge the kind words, then decline. You don’t owe anyone your time just because they said something nice.
One-sided “collaborations.” Some proposals are framed as joint efforts but offer little benefit to you. Ask if the outcome serves you both equally and whether the project aligns with your current goals. If not, say no without guilt.
Unapproved name-dropping. When someone uses your name without permission, it can mislead others and damage your credibility. Address it directly. Ask for your name to be removed and set clear expectations for the future. |
