| Hi Carolyn: I am 65 and the oldest of three children. Our parents have both died. We get along pretty well but do not live near each other. My memory is not so great, so I signed up for a study a year ago to test the efficacy of an Alzheimer’s drug. They did genetic testing and discovered a 50 percent chance of having a gene that can result in Alzheimer’s. Scans showed I do have plaques in my brain; however, it is at an early stage. I was accepted into the study. I am functioning normally and still work, drive and travel as always. I have told my brother about the study but not my sister. She is the kind of person who, when she finds out someone is sick, will research on the internet and try to provide a diagnosis even though she has no training. She will contact far-flung relatives and ask them whether they know any specialists in the area she can refer the sick person to, without asking the sick person first. Because of this and questionable decisions she made in dealing with covid, I do not trust her judgment on medical issues. Neither sibling shows outward signs of the forgetfulness. Besides my brother, I have told only a handful of very close confidants about my diagnosis and the study. My dilemma is whether to tell my sister. On the one hand, she has the same risk I do. On the other hand, I’m concerned I’m setting myself up for years of unwanted medical advice if I do tell her. I feel as if my health isn’t anyone else’s business, and I don’t want to be the subject of pity. Should I tell her? — Remembering | 
