| Adapted from an online discussion. Hello, Carolyn: My son is a junior in college and has never been a big talker. When he’s home he’s pleasant to be around and seems happy to spend time with us. But once he goes to school, he almost disappears. We get texts when something big happens but otherwise don’t hear from him unless we initiate a request — usually once every 10 or 14 days. I’d like to hear from him — of his own accord — on a more regular basis. I don’t know if I should communicate my wish and get the pattern established now, or let him live his college life without parental pressure and move to a more frequent communication schedule once he’s out of school. I don’t want to be a bothersome parent or a chore he has to fulfill, but I’d like to be in more contact. Just him calling once a week or so. What do you think? — Parent Read your responses to this week’s reader question We asked readers to channel their inner Carolyn Hax and answer this question. Column Carolyn Hax and Haben Kelati | | | | 
