Hey dupa

When I first started teaching charisma, I noticed something strange.

Most people think their personality - the way they talk, move, laugh, gesture - is who they are.

But it’s not.

It’s just a bunch of habits they picked up years ago…

That they never realized they could change.

I used to see this all the time when I was coaching guys who wanted to be more confident socially.

We’d go out to a bar or a party, and I’d notice something simple:

When they talked to someone, they’d lean way in…

…sometimes so close they were practically hovering.

And they didn’t even notice it.

It wasn’t that they were awkward…

It was just a habit they’d picked up somewhere along the way.

And now, years later, they were carrying it like it was part of their identity.

I’d tell them:

"Try leaning back instead. Let the other person come into your space."

And it was wild how everything changed instantly.

Suddenly, the conversation felt more natural.

They looked more confident.

And the other person felt more comfortable.

That’s when I realized something that’s stuck with me ever since:

Most of what we call our "personality" isn’t really us.

It’s just learned behavior… things we do automatically, without even noticing.

And the moment you realize that, everything changes.

Because if it’s just a habit, it’s something you can unlearn.

You can replace it with confidence, calm, and ease…

The same way you’d learn a new skill or improve at the gym.

I’ve seen people go from nervous and withdrawn to magnetic and relaxed in a matter of weeks.

So if you’ve ever felt awkward, quiet, or unsure in social situations… please know - that’s not who you really are.

You’re not broken. You’ve just been practicing the wrong habits.

And the good news? You can start practicing new ones today.

If you’re ready to start making those small shifts, this video will show you how to do it :-)

How to Have More Attractive Body Language Than 99% of People

Talk soon,
Charlie