| We asked readers to channel their inner Carolyn Hax and answer this question. Some of the best responses are below. Hi Carolyn: Last year, my sister canceled her wedding and broke off her engagement to her long-term partner. In the month or so leading up to the wedding, she stayed with our mom, hardly ate, cried almost daily, and incessantly asked me and our parents what she should do. We all tried to listen and not give advice, but after dozens of the same conversations, I and my parents did say things along the lines of, “If you’re feeling and acting this way, then maybe your heart is trying to tell you something.” She told us she was not attracted to him and having doubts, and other, frankly, disappointing things — like she was staying with him out of convenience and not wanting to go through the embarrassment of canceling a wedding. Over a year later, she has been “secretly” dating him again. (She doesn’t hide it well.) She never really stopped talking to him. If they get engaged again and the same doubts creep up, how should we proceed? I still don’t want to give advice, but having seen her that miserable, plus the aftermath of how her partner treated our family — telling her we turned her against him and convinced her to break it off — just left a bad taste in my mouth. My husband doesn’t want to be involved in their wedding if they have one. He also doesn’t want our young son around my sister’s partner because of all this. And he also does not want her partner at our home for future holiday celebrations and milestones. I want to be there for my sister, but this is dividing our family. Please help. — Sister’s Chaos | 
