What’s going on: In a world where more people befriend and even date robots, it’s probably not a shock that Americans are getting lonelier. But new research from AARP backs this up, showing a rising number of middle-aged and older adults — especially in their 40s and 50s — feel isolated. Among the loneliest? Nearly half of adults between 45 and 49 years old, along with those who never married, didn’t work, and whose household income was below $25,000 per year. Most people surveyed couldn’t pinpoint what was behind their sense of seclusion, though some tied it to bereavement and health challenges. Overall, the sense of loneliness was stronger than in past surveys in 2018 and 2010.
What it means: Although wealth and education offer some insulation from isolation, they’re not a cure. People who juggle work, kids, and aging parents can feel lonely despite their overflowing calendars. But there are strategies to combat loneliness. One idea: Get vulnerable with the people already in your life. You don’t have to trauma dump or share your deepest secrets, but start a convo about an odd habit, a childhood memory, or a work problem. Or, give the “5-3-1 rule” a shot. Finally, may we suggest texting or calling your loved ones about three silly things (for instance, the shame of your Spotify Wrapped or a show you think they’d like) each week. Tiny steps toward connection count, and they stack up.
