| Dear Carolyn: My sister had big dreams in high school of going to a highly highly selective college. She was accepted into three and then her world fell apart due to her mental health, and she’s never fully recovered. She managed to finish college while living at home. She still lives with my parents, and she struggles. I’m married, and we have a high school 10th-grader with a natural talent for school. She loves learning. Her dream school list mirrors my sister’s and my parents are asking me to ask my daughter to NOT apply to three to which my sister got accepted. My wife is livid and doesn’t want our daughter’s wings to be clipped because of my sister. I think there are a lot of schools and it isn’t a big deal to remove these three if it helps preserve my sister’s mental health. We are several months off from taking our daughter on college tours, and I’m interested in your thinking. — College Ownership | 
