| Adapted from online discussions, here and here. Dear Carolyn: I moved into my boyfriend’s house last week. We’ve been together over four years. I might have moved in sooner, but he bought the house a while ago, and I was worried he’d always think of it as his house, not our house. I was right. Within the first week, I was told about leaving windows open when no one is home, leaving the microwave plugged in when not in use, only locking one door lock when I leave the house, etc. With this last one, I was curious and asked about it, and he became defensive. He isn’t normally controlling, defensive or argumentative, and I know it’s an adjustment for him to have me (and my dog) here. But I’m an adult, and I’m not going to live by someone else’s rules, even if it’s technically his house (I’m paying half). Do I just need to give it more time or is this already a red flag that moving in was a mistake? — His House, His Rules |
