| Dear Carolyn: My husband and I have been married 16 years and have a 5-year-old daughter. We live out west (where he is from) while my family is all on the East Coast. It’s hard to see all of them at the same time, but they do a yearly beach trip to a place I grew up going to. It’s nostalgic for me but also the best opportunity for my daughter to see her grandparents, aunts, uncle and cousins all together and the house is paid for by my dad. It isn’t the most exciting vacation, but it is relaxing and a good way to stay connected to my family. We told my parents we would not come this summer due to a schedule conflict, but that has been resolved and now I am considering going. My husband, however, finds the beach vacations with them extremely boring and would like to opt out to save money and vacation time. He says I should still go with our daughter. I feel a bit resentful that he isn’t willing to come with us but I also understand it’s not his idea of a good time. I’m torn on whether to push him to come or just enjoy some quality time with my family. He has been pretty good overall about making an effort to see my family. — Family (Vacation) Feud | 
