| We asked readers to channel their inner Carolyn Hax and answer this question. Some of the best responses are below. Dear Carolyn: I have a son, 14, and a daughter, 17. Their dad and I divorced four years ago, and they live with me. Dad comes over once a week to make dinner for them, does most soccer carpool for my son and sometimes plays pool with him. He has been dating someone for the last year. For the last few months, the kids feel he prioritizes time with her. For example: He came over Christmas morning for just an hour and then left to spend the rest of the day with her. My son was hurt, and my daughter was angry. They feel he’s been leaving his dinner days early. When my daughter, who didn’t even want to see him for more than a year, asked him to stay, he said he had to go because his girlfriend was waiting for him. My kids feel bad but won’t talk to him about it. I’ve told them he loves them more than anything and would want to know how they feel, and expressed the importance of uncomfortable conversations with people you love. I can’t say anything to their dad, because I know from experience it would not go over well. We no longer have common friends or family who I can ask to talk to him. I want them to have a good relationship with their dad, but this is pulling them apart. Any suggestions? — Hurting Kids’ Mom | 
