| Dear Carolyn: My dad was never around when my brothers and I were growing up. Sure, we lived in the same house, but our dad was working or hanging out with his buddies fishing, golfing or holding court at the local bar. Finally, when I was 15, my mom divorced him and we had zero contact with him for 13 years. Then I invited him to my wedding. He came and we have had infrequent contact for a year or so until I announced I was pregnant. Since then — the baby is now 9 months — my dad is all over me and my little family with texts, phone calls, gifts. He is asking to spend time with the baby once, twice, three times a week(!) saying that he knows he screwed up with us three and he’d like a chance to be a proper grandfather. To do it right. Is it odd that I’m resentful that he is willing to make this effort for my child and not me? What is this? He gets to just leapfrog over all the hard stuff to a new, squishy, gorgeous little baby? Or should I be happy that he wants to be a grandfather because his being a father is a lost cause? I don’t know what to think, and my indecision with all my hormones and going back to work and navigating this new part of the marriage means I’ve just been ignoring my dad. I don’t have time for therapy right now, but could you give me some direction on how to think about it? — Round 2 | 
