| Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My mom had this saying, “Least said, soonest mended,” and I’m wondering if it’s true with our daughter-in-law, “Lindsey.” My husband, younger son and I had Thanksgiving with my son “Todd” and his wife a few years back. Lindsey is a great cook and likes fancy food, so she made some unusual dishes: goose rather than turkey, for example. I loved it all, but my husband and younger son prefer familiar food and joked during the meal about all the “weird dishes.” We are having Thanksgiving with them for the first time since then, and my husband and son promised to be more gracious since it was obvious Lindsey went to a lot of trouble. Todd let me know he is responsible for the dinner this year, though he’s not much of a cook. This is fine, but I’m worried Lindsey was insulted last time and that’s the reason for the switch. Should we apologize? Or let it go? — Anonymous | 
